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Wednesday, August 12, 2009

The Race to Nowhere: Relationship Reform #2

What's funny is that most of us frequent sites like Facebook and Twitter every moment of everyday and have no problem with sharing our status. People will tell you where they are, who they are with and whether they'll be throwing a cookout on Saturday or not.

On the other hand, if you ask that same person about their relationship status, their answer is complex, complicated to say the least. It's obvious that no one has sat down with them to talk about what each status to a relationship is all about. So here is a blueprint that I have come up with for you to share. Leave your thoughts afterward.

• When you’re ‘Single’, you have no obligations to anyone. You are able to talk or go out with whomever, whenever you please. You’re availability is limitless and fun is just a party away.
• When you’re ‘Dating’, you have no obligations to anyone. You’re testing the waters, going out with different prospects, feeling out your connection with that person(s). Your availability isn’t as limitless but you’re in the game.
• When you’re ‘Involved’, you now have an obligation (exclusive). Your connection has grown to an exclusive level. Your availability is now limited to ONE person. At this stage, indulging yourself in others is labeled as cheating.
• When you’re ‘Married’, your religion and/or the law binds your love. You’re with the person that you will spend the rest of your life with (hopefully). Marriage is a total commitment. At this stage, indulging yourself in others is labeled as infidelity/adultery.

1 comment:

  1. I must agree with you. Most definitely communication in all areas are lacking, thats the reason for all the heartache, pain, confusion, etc..if we all take a moment to evaluate what we want,need,and lack..the chaos could decrease.